Brief background: I (the author) became a widower after a twenty-year marriage. My late wife died unexpectedly of an aortic aneurysm. About a year later, my only sibling passed away from colon cancer. Six months later, through my misery, I understood how short and precious life was. I still had love to offer and I needed some happiness. I really was not interested in any crazy dating scene so I decided to join eHarmony. This is also where my story begins.
Through instant messaging, I began corresponding with a nice woman named Diane who had two young kids. I soon found that we had a lot in common. After a few days of phone calls, she understood that our relationship was progressing positively so she made a confession to me. She was on dialysis and was dealing with some potentially serious health risks. Diane seemed to understand when I told her that because of my wife’s passing, I honestly could not continue with our relationship. I would be an emotional wreck (not to mention my kids) if anything ever happened to her. Diane appreciated my honesty, just as I appreciated hers. We sadly said our goodbyes, knowing that we would no longer contact each other.
Late in November, I met Rosanne on-line. After some enjoyable instant messaging and a few phone calls, we talked about dating and she invited me to a yoga session at an institute located near Union Square in Manhattan.
The contrasts in the two stories show that honesty is seen from the owner’s perspective. Diane felt I should know the important factors in her life so I could make an honest decision on how to proceed. Rosanne on the other hand never felt that she lied to me; she simply did not mention that she was seeing someone else. We take for granted that we all carry the same meaning of when we say the word honesty. Encarta World Dictionary defines honesty as the quality of condition, or characteristic of being fair, just, truthful, and morally upright. I’m certain you’ve got your personal view of the word honesty. Let’s all try not to hurt each other by being too honest.